I am doing something a little different today since I witnessed something today that opened my eyes. I have gotten a part-time job with Hallmark – you know – the ladies you see in the store restocking the cards! It doesn’t pay a whole lot but then you are basically your own boss – work alone. However it is frustrating that every time you go into the store, some little munchkin has played “mix the cards up” , “go fish” or “52 card pick-up and I do spend more time straightening up than re-stocking. It amazes me thinking that Mom or Dad comes into the store to shop and let’s their children run free in the store to make this mess. I tell myself no decent parent would stand there and “watch” their child basically destroy the merchandise. But then –
Like the proverbial light bulb going off I thought, Girl what do you expect with all these “kids are having kids.” The parents haven’t even grown up yet! They haven’t had their fun time yet – maybe didn’t graduate from high school and are now thrown into the world of parenthood and in a majority of cases, single parenthood. You have a baby while still a baby how do you know how to raise a child? They certainly do not issue you a manual when you have a baby. I think young parents decide they have 2 choices, ignore the actions of your kids completely and harass the rest of the world or let them learn at an early age that if they whine enough, you will eventually give in. Since the parents today mostly are still children themselves they haven’t learned respect – for themselves, for others or for their property – so how can they teach their children respect?
I want to publicly at this time tell our children how very proud we are of them – our grandchildren too! We have this wonderful blended family and it is surprising to me that we both think so alike about raising children. Both sets of children are smart, respectful, intelligent and loving. They are great parents, get up every day and go to work (yes thankfully, they still have jobs) and though a few of them have gone through some roughs times, they pulled up their boot straps, brushed themselves off and moved onward and upward! This goes for their respective spouses also! The great-grandchild (3 and one on the way) has started the family road and we think they are both doing pretty good.They both are learning the parent thing!
For our children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren I would like to say:
We wish for you the gift of wisdom – this does not come with birth but is learned over the passing years by the experiences of you and others
We wish for you success – always remember this only has true value to you or others if it is earned
We wish for you happiness – settle but find your own – no one can give you happiness – find what makes you happy & in turn you will make others happy
Seek your dreams – start small and grow – remember all the stages a butterfly goes through before it matures
Listen to your heart – true heart feeling will never leave doubt or questions
Be curious – knowledge is a gift but you do need to search for it – it will not search for you
Be heard – your opinions are important but always remember the opinions of others are important too – learn to listen – just hearing will not give you knowledge
Appreciate yourself & others – be kind to yourself and then others will as well – never satisfy for seconds
Make the very most of every day – smell the roses – bath in the sunshine – learn to dance in the rain – each day is a new wonder
Learn to love yourself – if you do not neither will others – retain your individual spirit in being yourself – you were made special
Retain your childhood grace and spirit for adventure – even the simple things in life can make you happy if you share it with those you love
Always remember – being a friend means accepting the things you cannot change for better or for worse and they will return that 10 fold
Stay in touch with younger generations, they will keep you young – learn from the older ones, they will help you to not make the same mistakes they did
Learn to overlook the little things – it is those that will create the most heartache – dirty socks on the floor or the toilet seat up or down are not the worst things in the world
There will be days when you don’t like your husband/wife or children very much but you will still love them
Never go to bed angry and never be afraid to say you are sorry even if you think you are right
Learn to recognize that you probably are learning at least one new thing a day – in fact make it a goal
Marriage is a full time job no matter how many years you are married
Parenting is very hard work and sometimes it will bring you to tears – hopefully there will be another lesson learned
You cannot raise your children into what you want them to be – again the butterfly – give them their wings
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass … It’s about learning to weather the storm and to dance in the rain
Laugh insanely, Love truly, Forgive quickly and Pray daily
Live in such a way that those who know you but don’t know God, will come to know God because they know you.
Always remember we love you with the force of our very being! We are proud of you and wish you only the very best!